Selfless Help

Hi darling,

There's one thing I realised today. If you noticed I always believed in helping people in all circumstances and have done that too in my capacity even beyond sometimes. But what I learnt lately is that you should always ask them before helping. Let me explain it more.

Recently I have been contemplating my own life views. I always believed that helping people should be selfless. While this is may be a invaluable ornament in your character, the modern world often takes it as a sign of weakness. And that's a shame. People who loves to give, who loves to share, they do it anyway. On the other hand, people keep expecting you to give every time and eventually makes habit of it. Now when you are in a position where you are unable to help, they don't stop expecting. And that's where things go wrong.

Now, honestly I do not understand their mentality nor do I am interested in analysing their thoughts. What I can tell you is from another perspective. If you are a giver (I sort of know you will be :D), you will assume the other person will think the way you think. But dear, let me tell you, it's not true. When you need help, when you really do, you will think that there will be people to help you. But it makes me sad to tell you that, in most of the time you won't find any one. And I know that will break your heart. Always remember you do not deserve to feel bad for good things, you simply don't. 

I have thought a lot on this. The only possible explanation that I came up with is while you are giving so much, somewhere in between, you too develop a sense of expectation. You expect people to think like you, help you in times of your need. This whole concept of selfless helping stands on the fact that people around you should also share the same ideology. But that's too good to be true dear. World would be a better place if there were more selfless behaviour. You can not change the way people think neither am I suggesting to change yourself. What I think is the best way is to ask people before helping. That will surely help others not to develop an overarching expectation. And from your side, I think you too will maintain your optimality between helping and expecting.

I don't know if I sounded too negative here, but I wanted you to know about some mundane things sooner or later. And always, think of your own.

Your daddy loves having philosophical talks :P

Yours always,

Dad